08 December, 2006

Now It Can Be Told

Ugh. My husband has been out of town on a business trip all week, but I haven't whined about it. [There are two things I dislike telling the Internet--when I'm home alone and when we are all out of town, leaving the home to fend for itself.]

He got back last night, late, and I feel like I can breathe again. As 50s throwback as that may sound, I've spent nearly half my life with this man. This was one of the loneliest weeks I think I've ever had. It's not that I cannot be alone. It's that I can't really be without him.

It occurs to me that women aren't supposed to say these types of things, because it does make it appear that we need our men to be whole. Except, that I do. Don't worry--it's only that way because I married him. We did that "two shall be one" thing, and when he's gone I feel like half my body is floating around somewhere without me.

I don't know if I can fully express how happy I am to have him back home.


At 8:37 AM, December 08, 2006, Blogger Slartibartfast said...

I know EXACLY what you mean.

My parents NEVER spent a moment apart outside work. I always thought it was unhealthy.

Until I married Lintilla. Without even overtly trying, we've become the exact same way.

In almost 20 years, we've only been apart once, and that was torture.

Glad to hear hubby's back and you can be whole again.

At 9:04 AM, December 08, 2006, Blogger grandefille said...

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At 9:17 AM, December 08, 2006, Blogger Malia said...

I'm the same way Kat, the same way. David was out of town for 2 1/2 days this week, he got home Thursday afternoon and it just makes my whole world so much better when he's here. Even before we had children, the times he had to be away were hard and lonely. Sole possession of the remote control and not having to kick a snoring spouse, for me, are only fun for about a day, then it's just lonely and boring.

(and your right, I also don't tell when he's away or when we're going to be away either...at least I try not to!)

At 9:23 AM, December 08, 2006, Blogger Mari said...

I feel completely the same way about Josh! Recently when he took the kids up to Indiana, I couldn't stand it-not only was the other half of me gone, but the kids were too!
Until I met and married Josh, I never would have thought I'd be the "dependent" type, but I am incomplete when he is not around.

At 10:17 AM, December 08, 2006, Blogger Jeffrey said...

I can relate completely as it pertains to my wife, Shaunna, of three years (the 20th of this month, as a matter of fact).

We were super close as best friends b4 we got hitched, but now, sheesh, no words can describe it. It does feel as if a part of me is missing (the kinder, smarter, prettier, and just all around better part, that is) when we're apart.

Glad ur hubby's back...i guess i'll have to call "my people" and let them know tonight's raid on your place is off. :-/

At 10:25 AM, December 08, 2006, Blogger jag said...

I think this says a lot about your marriage. It's not that you can't be without a man, it's that you can't be without yours.

Big difference.

As a very independant person, I kinda look forward to having the house to myself, only to miss CB when he's gone. Never thought that'd happen, truth be told. I guess we picked the right ones!

At 2:40 PM, December 08, 2006, Anonymous Muffy said...

Everytime Caruthers says "I think I'll go out of town with the guys this weekend" I get a little excited because OOH! That means I can clean in peace! That means I have the bed to myself!

But come Friday, he'll say "Yeah we're not going" and there's a huge sense of relief that washes over me. When he was gone for a whole week on business... it felt awful.

At least we know they're coming back though right?

At 3:49 PM, December 08, 2006, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Makes perfect sense to me, perfect sense. I'm the same way. Heck, he had to go on a business trip three weeks after we were got back from our honeymoon, for two nights...awful. I missed him terribly.

I'm glad he's back and that you are once again at ease. :)

At 10:22 AM, December 10, 2006, Blogger Sonia said...

I'll be honest, and say I'm not one of those women. Hubby and I don't spend a lot of time together because of our conflicting work schedules...and perhaps I've just gotten used to that. To be honest, for us...it's made our marriage stronger. We're not the type of folk that need to spend much time together. LOL. Man that sounds really bad in print!


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